Stop right there....

It's time that we stop asking people not to cry.

It's time we stop telling our men to "Man up!"

It's time to stop the stigma against people taking me time or mental health days.

It's time we stop saying big boys don't cry.

By doing all these things we are invalidating people's feelings. We're discounting and devaluing their experiences. And more times than not this hadn't been done intentionally.

Its OK to sit and cry, whether you need to take  yourself somewhere to have a good cry or you do it where you are.

The sheer number of us who will battle depression or anxiety is staggering. 1 in 4 will battle depression or anxiety in the UK each year.

We need to make it acceptable for our men to be softer, to reach out and talk. 84 men a week commit suicide in the UK, that's 12 men a week. Suicide is the biggest killer in men under 45. Let that sink in.

It needs to be acceptable to love ourselves.

We need to stop shaming women in society, not every woman who gives birth will drop back down to their pre-pregnancy clothes size. We need to teach our teenagers how to love and appreciate their bodies and help them to understand that their bodies will change over time.

Not every woman wants to get married or to have children - we need to end the stigma attached to this.

We also need to stop asking women older than 30 why they haven't had children yet - there could be a whole host of reasons why they haven't had children. And unless they're volunteering that information, it's really not necessary for anyone to question them. It's their lives.

We need to show our children that our bodies and love should be appreciated and respected, that our love and bodies should only be shared with those who truly love us. One of real substance and depth.

We need to make it so that people who claim to love us are not our manipulators or attackers, they should be our lovers, our protectors  and our guardian's.

The services we have fail a lot of people- not because the staff don't want to help- it's down to the policies and lack of funding. We know things aren't perfect. But here's where we can all step in, let's reach out to those around us; Text, call, go for a cup of coffee.

The truth is some people don't know how to ask for help. Some don't know how to ask for love.

It all starts with us. It starts with our children.

If we can show the next generation how we can love ourselves more, take care of ourselves better, then we give an example of how to live. We show compassion, empathy and love in all areas of our lives but respect boundaries.

We are then helping to raise a healthier, more robust, caring, sharing generation.

And remember these don't have to be your own children. It takes a village to raise a child.