Enjoy yourself

We give other people such power over our emotions. We look to our partners, friends, family, colleagues and employers to make us happy, when really it’s not other people’s place to make us happy. True happiness comes from within and one of two things usually comes from us looking to others to fill that void.

1.Powerlessness on our part as we are surrendering our own power and when we feel this powerlessness we look to fill this gap with material things or junk food, alcohol or other substances.

2.This also leads to pressure on other people’s part. Pressure to please, pressure to keep the peace and to find the compromises. That isn’t to say we shouldn’t do this for others, the issue comes in when it is expected, we shouldn’t expect it from others or rely on it. This only leads to frustration on our part when someone doesn’t reciprocate or do what we feel we would or have done in similar situations. Remember, not everyone has the same heart.

So let’s be responsible for our own heart, our own happiness - but how do you do this?

1. We start by being grateful, exercising daily gratitude is like exercising a muscle the more we use it the stronger it becomes. Using gratitude each day helps us to see the good in each day, as every day may not be good, but there is a bit of good in every day.

2. Practice Mindfulness; in today’s technology driven era we are more under pressure than ever. Social Media is a great tool for keeping in touch and a fantastic business tool, but it’s also putting pressure on a lot of people.

This pressure is to be perfect. A perfect partner, a perfect mother/father, perfect home, perfect employee/employer, perfect life and to look perfect. Except we’re not perfect, in fact we are perfectly imperfect. We need to embrace this. But we also have no time to shut off from the outside world, from technology, from this need for perfection. This lack of “me” time is causing many people to burn out.

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Take some time for yourself and practice mindfulness. Take some time out from the busy hustle and bustle of day to day life.

4. Take time to mediate, and sit in peace and quiet and be at one with yourself. Now this might sound airy fairy, but it really isn’t, it’s about taking time out to rest your mind and allow your mind to quieten. A lot of people think meditation is about not thinking at all and that’s not really the case, meditation is about many things; recognising what is going on in your physical body and being able to just not be doing something all the time. When I record my guided meditations I always advise the listener that allow the thoughts to come in and once you’re aware of the thoughts say goodbye and let them leave.

5. And lastly, follow rule number 32 – Enjoy the little things. If you can find the good, the joy in simple things you’ll feel less of a need for external sources to provide you with happiness. This will create a ripple effect, like dropping a pebble in a lake, watch the happiness spread throughout your life and know that happiness can be infectious.

So, it’s time to claim our power and our birth right. True happiness starts with you. 📷ReplyForward